Woman Being Attacked

I captured the images above several years ago, of a woman being attacked in front of my old house.  I had installed a security camera that was activated by motion, was going through the video footage to see who stole my newspaper one morning, and came across the horrific attack above.  A woman was walking on the sidewalk when a man in a truck stopped, ran out toward the woman, grabbed her in a bear hug and threw her onto my steps, then choked her while slamming her head into the concrete steps.  He then dragged her into his truck and drove away.  The entire time he was yelling and cursing at the woman.  I called the police as soon as I saw the footage and they came to my house to see it, but said there was nothing they could do since they couldn’t identify the truck or the individuals, and had no other reports.

It could have been a “domestic violence” situation.  Maybe the woman knew the man.  There was also a “brothel” about two blocks from my house, so it’s also possible this was an unhappy customer.  It could have been a woman who was attacked by a complete stranger.  I’ll never know, and it doesn’t much matter what the situation was.  The man was a psychopath and should be locked up or worse.

So why am I posting this now?

I’m working on a self defense e-book at the moment that I’ll eventually put on this site.  In the process of researching the demand for them I’ve looked at a few, seen plenty of advertisements for them, and also watched numerous internet videos on self defense.  The majority of what passes for self defense on the web, in e-books, and in real books for that matter is garbage. Let’s take a look at an image from the best ranking self defense e-book on the web, 7most.com:

Horribly Unrealistic Defense

I didn’t buy this book, but the image above depicts an extraordinarily unrealistic defense against a bear hug.  Compare the images above, where a man stands still holding a woman in a rear bear hug, with the images of the real attack I posted above.  In the fake attack, the attacker just stands there waiting to be foot stomped!  In the real attack, the attacker runs in and uses a bear hug to slam the woman onto concrete steps.  That’s the first problem.  The second problem is that foot stomping a serious attacker isn’t going to do anything but piss him off!  It’s DEFINITELY NOT going to give you the space to raise your arm out of the hold and elbow the attacker in the jaw!  Let’s take a look at one more image from the same site:

Another Stupid Defense

This is another horrific “defense” against a choke from the mount.  It will never work. All the man would have to do is lean back and the woman wouldn’t be able to reach his eyes.  He could also simply smack her hands off of him and punch her in the face, then go back to choking her.  If you want to learn to defend yourself on the ground, you need to take classes in Brazilian jiu jitsu, judo, or some other form of wrestling.

There’s no magic in self defense, and if you want to learn to defend yourself it’s going to take a real commitment of time, effective techniques, some hard training, and a sound strategy.  “Tips and tricks” are going to get you nowhere but hurt. So if you’re looking for self defense on the web and happen to come across this post, remember what a real attack will be like.  There will be dynamic motion.  No one is going to put you in a bear hug and just stand there waiting for you to counter.  No attacker that was serious enough to sit on top of you and choke you is going to stop when you attempt to put your thumbs in his eyes.  Other than awareness and prevention, if you’re looking for a quick self defense fix, forget about it.  Any book, video, or instructor who promises you otherwise is full of it!

I recently posted instructions explaining how to encrypt your email for free in order to defend against hackers, corporations, and governments stealing your emails.  Here’s a short follow up on encrypting your files.

Many of us have important information on our computers, and if it were stolen it could do us more damage than having a wallet or purse stolen.  While many people think about protecting their wallets and purses, they don’t give nearly enough consideration to their digital information.  Furthermore, protecting your files is a lot easier than learning physical self defense!  The easiest way to make your files inaccessible to hackers is to encrypt them.  Download and install Truecrypt.  It works on both Windows and the Mac OS, and you can choose to encrypt everything from single files to your entire computer.

I find the most convenient feature to be creating an encrypted folder, disguised as a corrupt file.  All you do is type in your password, and the file appears as a drive where you can store your most important data.  Give it a try, and protect yourself online!

This might seem a little off topic until you see the fantastic nunchaku skills at about the middle of the video:

Matt once flipped me onto my head nearly breaking my neck. He’s even crazier than the video suggests…

Palm Sticks

Many martial arts have their own version of the palm stick.  In Filipino Martial Arts it’s an olisi palad, pocket stick, or palm stick.  In Japanese it’s the kubotan or yawara stick.  A Vienna, Austria based school/organization has a modern website devoted to it, Self Defense Stick Concept International, where they offer classes and seminars.

But even though I’ve trained with palm sticks a good bit (you can see my most easily accessible ones in the picture above), I’m not convinced they’re a great idea…or at least not the most efficient and effective option given the alternatives.  Wikipedia (which I hesitantly mention) claims that Takayuki Kubot developed his version of the palm stick, the kubotan, “as a tool for police officers to restrain suspects without permanent injury“.  Now that, I can understand.  The article goes on to say “It is often touted as extremely effective in breaking the will of unruly suspects with painful locks and pressure point strikes.”  Again, that makes some sense for a police officer who is not acting in self defense, but attempting to get an unruly suspect to comply.  If a police officer was actually fighting for his or her life, they’d be FAR better off using their gun first, baton second, or pepper spray last.  I guess that’s the root of my problem with the palm stick.

"Self Defense Sticks"

Pure palm sticks are made for one purpose, hurting people by hitting, poking, or adding extra pressure/discomfort to a grab, pull, or press.  Without question I’d rather be hit with a hammer fist to the face, or even chest for that matter, than with a palm stick!  Getting hit with a palm stick definitely does hurt more than getting hit with an empty hand.  But does that make them better?

If you’re in a situation where you actually need to physically defend yourself, legally, you’re most likely in a fight for your life…not your ego.  In such a situation your goal needs to be to take your attacker out, not hurt him.  I’m not claiming you necessarily need to kill your attacker here.  But on the other hand, pain is not the goal.  Making him unable to continue his attack is the goal.  And let’s remember that someone who has decided to physically attack you whether that’s for your money, body, or life, is crazy in the first place!  We’re not talking about your training partner, who would rather not be poked in the chest by your palm stick during your evening martial arts class.  We’re talking about someone who very likely has no regard for his life or yours.  Where I come from these attackers are likely to be in their late teens.  They’re stupid, careless, and usually have a gun.  Trying to hit them with a palm stick will most likely result in you being shot dead.

But what about when your attacker does not have a gun, and is not likely trying to kill you?  What if he only wants to rape you, or beat half the life out of you?  Would you be better off with a palm stick, or an expandable baton?  Would you be better off with a palm stick, or a knife?

Knives

A closed knife can be used as a palm stick if you like.  An open one can be used as a tool to cut boxes, open envelopes, or even to cut flowers off a branch.  And if you’re attacked by someone who actually wants to do you great bodily harm or kill you, it can be used to kill them a hell of a lot faster than a palm stick.  I’m not necessarily advocating carrying a knife for self defense…just pointing out that it’s likely a better thing to carry than a pure and simple palm stick.  Most decent knives also have clips to fasten them to a pocket or waistband, which makes them easier to carry and access than a palm stick.

Delta Dart

You could also carry something like the delta dart above, but that’s clearly and obviously only a weapon for killing.  I’d highly recommend against that.

Flashlights

Even a solid flashlight can be used to beat someone with.  And with a flashlight you have the advantage of being able to light up dark places, or temporarily blind an attacker at night…with night adapted vision…provided you have a bright enough light.  So if you’re going to carry a palm stick, why not at least carry one that serves multiple functions?  Getting back to using a palm stick for self defense at all though…

Let’s quickly consider three typical self defense scenarios:

First, the rear bear hug:  You’ll often see people recommending to smash the attacker’s hand with your palm stick against a rear bear hug.  I admit, that would hurt.  Your attacker might let go of you.  Or, he might throw you on your head.  Wouldn’t grabbing and crushing his testicles be a better option?  You wouldn’t even have to reach for your palm stick!

Second, the front two handed choke: I’ve seen people demonstrate striking the attacker in the arms with a palm stick to make him let go, or even jabbing it into his throat.  How about just nailing him in the throat immediately?  Why would you need to first go for your palm stick?  It’s highly like that your attacker is not going to be standing still, just holding your neck.  He’s probably going to be slamming your head into a wall as he chokes you.  If you’re still standing, nail him in the throat immediately, kick him hard in the balls, knee him in the face, elbow him in the head, etc.  All of this is better than trying to smack him with a palm stick.

Third, the punch:  Lots of people who practice with palm sticks train either striking the incoming fist (good luck!) or doing “nerve destructions” on the arm, then moving on to striking the opponent’s head/body with the stick.  I’ve done my share of this kind of practice.  And yes, it hurts a lot.  BUT, imagine you’ve got a real attacker coming at you with a crazy, non-stop barrage of punches…moving forward…not standing in one place so you can practice your fist and arm destructions.  His punches aren’t likely to be coming in on a straight line, just perfect for you to hit with your palm stick.  Just trying to do that in real life is probably going to get your slaughtered! Wouldn’t it be a lot smarter to crash in and take the attacker out?

My friend James Wilson, an eskrima instructor, recently wrote on the subject of palm sticks:

I see pocket sticks as more of a training device for improvised weapons or reverse grip knife. Learning how to move smoothly and generate some power is what the pocket stick is about. Sure you can carry a little stick around, but you’d be better served by carrying a good pen. At least you can use it for something. If you’re carrying a weapon around, it might as well be a knife. A knife is a tool, and a weapon. A pocket stick serves one purpose… As part of a weapons system I see some value in the training aspect of it, but again I think there are better tools out there (expandable batons come to mind).

I do like the idea of the palm stick. It’s a cool tool, and there is some appeal in believing a “little stick” can solve all your self defense problems. I’m still not ready to disregard the palm stick all together, but I think it’s most important to keep in mind what James pointed out…that the pocket stick makes a good training device for improvised weapons, and that there are better tools that serve the same purpose.

After yesterday’s post on good boundaries I decided to add a long overdue section to the site on awareness and prevention, along with what constitutes legal self defense.  When self defense is legally justifiable, it’s going to be extremely dangerous.  You’ll be dealing with an attacker who wants to injure or kill you.  While this site IS about physical self defense, you should do everything you possibly can to avoid having to resort to that.  The two sections above explain why.

I came across a post today regarding having good boundaries being the “single most important self defense move you need to know”.  While the post is written for women, it’s true, and it applies to everyone…male or female.  The most important component of self defense is awareness and prevention, and “good boundaries” is a huge part of that.

If you’re aware of your surroundings, take simple precautionary measures (lighted areas, locked doors, alarm, etc.), and keep your distance from potential threats, you’re highly unlikely to be attacked.  By adding “good boundaries”…not being afraid to say no, exiting situations you feel have the potential to turn nasty, and fighting when necessary…the chances of you being successfully assaulted are so low it’s ridiculous.  And if you do happen to know a few solid self defense techniques and training methods, well, you’re covered.

Ginunting

As a practitioner of Filipino Martial Arts, a great sword is a necessity. I’ve been meaning to post a review of a Ginunting I purchased a while back, and am finally getting to it now. I bought my Ginunting from Ron Kosakowski’s Traditional Filipino Weapons. I’ve bought plenty swords over the years, probably 20 or more.  I bought a samurai sword in Japan from the 1800′s, a Laotian soldiers sword in Laos from the early 1900′s, several Iban head hunting swords on the island of Borneo, a Filipino Pinute, etc., etc. Of all the swords I own, if I had to take one into a sword fight it would be my Ginunting from Ron’s store. (By the way, I do not know Ron and am not profiting in any way from writing this review…and of course I will hopefully never be in a sword fight!) Here is a comparison of the similarly priced Pinute from another company, and my Ginunting from TFW:

Pinute and Ginunting

You probably can’t tell much of a difference from the above photo, other than noticing the cheap scabbard that comes with the Pinute (top).  But take a look at a close up of the blades…from the back:

Blades

The Ginunting is on the left.  As you can probably see, the steel is twice as thick and a much higher quality on the Ginunting.  Here’s a close up of the scabbards and handles:

Scabbard and Handles

The handle on the Pinute isn’t all that bad, but the scabbard is such junk that it falls right out.  The Ginunting fits perfectly in the scabbard.  It’s snug, and definitely won’t fall out.  It handles like no other sword…amazing.  So if you’re looking for an excellent quality Filipino sword, order it from Traditional Filipino Weapons.  I’ll be ordering a couple more styles in the near future…